You mesmerize about him. You pictured everything that you looked for in a guy would be in your very arms one day. Perhaps wrapped around your fingers. What made your dream guy different from the others is the very fact that he fits the physical description: Six foot or better, athletic appearance, a smile that will sweep you off of your feet. His watch makes a statement. His diamonds defines who he is. He is driven by status. He could pick you up in his arms and automatically you feel a rush of emotion or what some would refer to as “WET”. Where have you been my entire life? For some that dream guy is well-off financially or in the midst of fame and fortune, possibly popularity. Dear reader I could sense the drastic change in your emotion as I describe your potential dream guy. What ever it may be, your dream guy has something that can directly relate to power. Yes I said it , power. Your feminine instinct draws you to power. You are infatuated, aren’t you? This power could very well be correlated to a familiar trait in the household or a lack of a masculine figure in the household. Some way and some how you want a man to dictate you, to fill a void , or maintain a sense of familiarity. Where am I going with this? You’ve reach a point in this entry where my choice of opinionated words comes off as bullshit to your very eyes but in the real world your dream guy has a life set up where there was a feminine figure in his life before the power, the money, and the fame, and no I’m not talking about his mother. You exchange text with him and his primary reply is, ” I am busy, I am always busy”. You become frustrated, not with his words but the fact that this is the only mean of communication between the two of you.
You over looked the single guy with no popularity. The well suited man with a 401k plan, who clocks into his 9-5 every morning , and doesn’t miss a beat. His schedule is open. He’s never failed to pay a bill better yet his dues in society. Possibly the man with a small business who is so humble that the business aspect of his well-being is disguised, to know him perhaps you would have to dig deep. Too much work huh? He’s not flashy enough. He is the guy who attends sunday service and loves his mother unconditionally. You are his dream woman but you’ll never know. Your curves are so well rounded, you never miss a day without your face beautifully made up, your soft look is always curled to wonders, your Valentinos strapped so beautifully around your ankles, he’s thinking to himself , ” Damn will I ever be able to afford her” ? You attract the popular men so he gets the impression that he would never stand a chance. Your smile comes off as shy but it is no secret what type of guys you let in. When will you be able to let go your nonchalant behaviors and notice him. He’s in front of you, particularly in the friend zone. He is in the friend zone ready to worship the ground that you walk on. He has shares within his company and is able to travel the world. He envisions you as his travel companion but you would never know. Ladies I just described your dream guy, alienated in the zone and you’ll never know
Written and Published By Shay Renee